Today is a good day. It’s one of my favorite days. In fact, 4 years ago today was hands down the best day of my life.
On this day, at 5:30 pm I said “I Do” to my best friend, love, and running partner for life. It was one of the best decisions I have ever made.
You can read a recap of our day here, from last year. Instead of going into detail about that wonderful day I thought I’d look back at the last 4 years. What have I learned since that day?
Ride the Waves
The day you get married is a beautiful and special day. It’s all kinds of happy. However, life doesn’t always work that way does it?
In the time since we’ve gotten married we’ve already had a lot of ups and downs. We’ve both suffered some serious injuries, we’ve battled with unemployment for over a year, we moved, started new jobs, and more!
There is good and bad in life, and learning to ride the waves together makes even the harder times that much more enjoyable.
Be a Team
One of the things I love so much about my husband and I’s relationship is that we truly are a team. We work together in everything and that makes us much stronger as a couple.
He’s always willing to help me as I am him, and that makes every day better. When he is going through a rough rotation and working long hours I pick up where he can’t. When he has better months he helps me more.
He tries to help pace me on workouts when he can and I try to help by bringing him water on his long runs when my schedule allows me to run before him. It’s the little things that bring a team together.
It’s Not Easy
Wes and I were together for about 6 years prior to getting married. In total we’ve been together 10 years and married for 4. I knew going into marriage that it isn’t easy, but I’ve learned that even more now.
Marriage is hard, it’s work even if you don’t want to say it, but in the end it is always worth it and that is what I try to remind myself when times get hard.
Manage Your Priorities
I heard someone say once that when things get hard, you treat your family the worst. It sounds bad but if you think about it sometimes it definitely is true. They are the ones there at the end of the day when you’ve had a bad day and they are the ones that we too often take things out on we shouldn’t.
I’ve tried to really work on managing my priorities and realizing that at the end of the day there are only a few things that are really the most important and my husband and marriage is one of those.
It’s not always easy, but it helps to try to put things in perspective. This is one thing though that I will continue to work on each day. I’m far from perfect.
I think sometimes we take ourselves too seriously. Life throws wrenches in and we forget to just stop and laugh with each other. It’s hard not to get caught up in all the craziness of life.
Having fun seems simple, but it is so important!
Even after 10 years I feel like I am always learning something new about Wes. It’s not an everyday thing but as we grow we change so I am firm believer that we can always learn something.
A person is not going to stay the same for life. You change, you grow and the most important thing is that we do it together.
To my husband – Happy 4 Year Anniversary! I’ve loved this journey we’ve been on and I can’t wait for years to come! I love you forever sweetheart!
How long have you been with your partner?
What has your relationship taught you?